Category Archives: Children

Are you really sorry?

Cover of "I'm Sorry (Look-Look)"

Cover of I’m Sorry (Look-Look)

At staff meeting this week we were discussing the ways in which to help a child understand the consequences of their actions. So many times, as adults, we want to have our child say “I’m sorry” when they have done something that hurt another person, whether it was a big hurt or a small hurt. At the meeting we were discussing how children don’t really understand the concept of being “sorry”. Oh, yes, they’ll say the words but many times they are right back at it again, doing the same thing as before and saying the same words, “I’m sorry” again. All the while, they haven’t learned very much about the encounter.

It was suggested to me at a training that instead of having the children who have wronged someone say “I’m sorry”, we must have them make amends. I’ve pondered on that for a while now and have decided that this is EXACTLY what needs to happen. Think about it, what if any human being, whether big or small had to make amends for every wrong deed they did. What would the world be like? I think in the Bible it’s called an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. Now, I’m not suggesting this is a good idea at all because since Jesus came into the world He asked us to forgive and forgive again and again when someone has wronged you. And I totally agree, although it is hard to do.

But what if, at a very young age, we teach our children to make amends for the wrongs they committ, not just to say “I’m sorry”. So when a child hits another child, they have to get them something to soothe the hurt, they have to be a part of the process as you help the hurt child. And what if we had each child that takes a toy from another child, not only give that toy back but verbally acknowledge…”I shouldn’t have taken that toy. It was wrong of me and I won’t do it again.” What if at a young age we taught this to our children and as they grew we continued to teach them to make amends when they have wronged someone. Would our world look different?

I really hope our world would be different. I pray it would make an impact on our world. So, in our school here at Aloma Methodist Early Childhood Learning Center we’re going to be putting that belief into practice. My prayer is that the children of this school would make a difference in the world as they grow. If we all teach our children this maybe we wouldn’t have the bombers and the shooters and people who create havoc in the world. I don’t know but it can only help.

What Are We Gonna Do About Supper?

A long time ago, over 10 years at least, I worked with the children at church and we did musicals.  During once performance of “Antsylvania”, there was a line in it where the little spider said to it’s mama, “What are we gonna do about supper?”  Well, ever since then when my husband is hungry he’ll say “What are we gonna do about supper?” Image

Dinner: It’s a modern-day dilemma  Here‘s an article about what to do about the dinner hurdle.

If there’s one daily duty that can confound even the most organized working parent, it’s how to get a decent meal on the dinner table when you’re exhausted after a long day at the office.

The last thing most of us want to do is slave over a hot stove. Yet a comforting, healthy meal shared at the end of the day can soothe frayed nerves, nourish the body and get everyone ready for the next day’s challenges.

How do you make it happen? Try using a Crock-Pot. New recipe books have updated ideas for turning out great soups, stews, chowders and more. You spend 15 to 20 minutes getting the meal going in the morning and when you return in the evening, you have a hot meal waiting for you.

Here’s a kid-friendly fish recipe that will have everyone going for seconds.

Ingredients:

2 slices of bacon, chopped

3 leeks, white part only, cleaned and finely chopped

3 celery stalks, washed, peeled and finely sliced

1/2 teaspoon dried thyme leaves

2 tablespoon all-purpose flour

4 cups fish stock (or water or 2 cups clam juice diluted with 2 cups water)

1 bay leaf

1 medium potato, peeled and cut into 1/2-inch cubes

2 cups cream or milk

1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper

2 pounds firm white fish fillets (like halibut or snapper) cut into 1-inch cubes

Directions:

1. Cook bacon in a skillet until crisp. Remove to a paper towel to absorb excess grease.

2. Drain all but 1 tablespoon of the fat from the skillet. Add leeks and celery to pan and cook until soft. Mix in thyme and bacon. Add flour, stir and cook about 1 minute. Add stock and bay leaf, stirring until slightly thickened.

3. Transfer to Crock-Pot. Add potato and stir. Cook on low for 8 to 10 hours or on high for 4 to 5 hours.

4. When you get home, heat up cream or milk until just before boiling. Stir in cayenne pepper. Add to Crock-Pot along with the fish. Cook on high 30 minutes or until fish is tender. Discard bay leaf and serve. Serves 6 to 8.

As an alternative, you can do steps 1 through 3 overnight, refrigerate the soup base in the morning before you head off to work, and do step four in a soup pot when you get home in the evening. 

Enjoy!

Imagination In A Box – by Lala Patrick

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    Now that Christmas is over, the children are having time to play with their electronic toys, dolls, and all the presents that were given.  They are so fun to receive and play with.  Walking in a toy store or a toy section of a store can be overwhelming and the wish list can get quite long before Christmas.  Christmas day is exciting to finally see what is in the wrapped gifts.  And now the children are getting time after Christmas to play with what they received.

After the excitement is over and the toys get old, some parents hear from their children the dreaded words “I’m bored.”  Our hearts sink.

This past Christmas, I was watching some of our smaller cousins while the adults were having their gift exchange. Our extended family plays a gift exchange where we are able to pick a gift that has already been opened and then the turn goes around where you can “steal” a gift someone has and once you have had it 3 times it is yours to keep.   One of the gifts was an empty paper towel roll that had money in it and we laughed that someone wanted an empty paper towel roll.

The little cousins quickly took hold of that paper towel roll and created an hour of fun.  They pretended it was a horn, a telescope, a musical instrument by tapping it on the ground, they made their arm disappear, and it was a golf club hitting a ball and they learned how to make an incline plane that their car could roll down and out.  All the adults smiled and enjoyed watching them using their imagination and one commented that it was the best toy given.

Watching my small cousins took me back to when I was growing up and when my mom would get a boxed package in the mail or a new appliance that came in a huge box.  All the children would want to  claim the box.  We would make it into a fort, a car or whatever our hearts desired.  My brother even made himself into a “box turtle” by cutting a hole in it and sticking his head out and carrying it on his back.  We would have hours of fun with our imagination.

Imaginary play is such important part of growing up.  It is a part of brain development and it gives the children the ability to have stories that they will be able to first talk about, then eventually write and then read.  For example, a child may be interested in space and planets and will create a pretend rocket and take a spacewalk on the moon.   He or she can write about the space walk in pictures or words and then they can share their book with their peers.

Imaginary play also allows the children to take risks. When he or she builds the space ship, they have to decide how it will look, where the door and windows will be. They will design what their rocket ship will look like.  Confident, positive risk takers are the children that can make decisions without always looking for approval from teachers and peers.

Imaginary play has many more developmental benefits such as allowing them to problem solve with their peers, and encourages role playing and language development.  It is even a part of a child’s gross and fine motor development.   So next time a box comes your way, remember “the sky is the limit” when it comes to the imagination of a child.

To Spare or Not to Spare, is that a question?

I am trying to read the Bible everyday and today as I was reading Proverbs 13:24 I read, “Whoever spares the rod, hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.”  I was sort of pondering on that this morning.  I went and looked in other translations and the majority of them said the same thing, if you don’t use the rod, then you hate your children.  Wow, those are strong words.

In our society people have read that verse to mean that you must spank your children,  the rod equals punishment.  So, as I was thinking about that I dug a little and found that in the Bible the rod was used by those who herded sheep.  Now, they didn’t hit the sheep over the heads with the rod, they used it to gently tap them to go where they wanted them to go,  They led them to the right places, the safe places.  If a sheep got out of the herd, the rod was used to lead it back to the safety of the herd, never to hit it.  Moses had a staff, or rod.  He used it to lead the Hebrews out of slavery.  He held it up high so that the Hebrews could see it and it would guide them as they were leaving Egypt, to go to a better place.

Spare the Rod

Spare the Rod (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Both those examples don’t have anything to do with punishment but with discipline, something our society is woefully lacking.   I have seen so many children that have not been disciplined by parents and so these children are making unsafe decisions with their lives.  In an effort to be a friend to their children they are failing to lead them, to guide them, to keep them safe.

It’s sometimes the easy path to let a child go their own way, somehow thinking that we’ll just be friends and that will work or that they need to make their own decisions and that will help them.  But that is not what the Bible says.  It says, if you spare the rod of discipline then you hate your child.  It says that the one who disciplines their child loves that child.  They really are strong words but I think God has it right.  We would do well to listen to Him.

Have a great day and remember, don’t spare that rod!