Are you my friend?

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Like me!  Friend me!  Read my blog!  Find me on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest.  these are all things we’re hearing and seeing nowadays in this new world of technology.  And I have to say that I’m right there in the midst of it all, tweating, following, commenting and liking with the best of them.  Although I’m still learning the ins and outs of hashtags.

But what does that have to do with parenting, you might ask.  After all, this is supposed to be a blog about parenting tips.  Well read on, my friend and you’ll find out.

In today’s world where technology has become an obsession with us, parenting is even harder than ever.  There’s so much competition for your attention.  Televisions, IPads, IPods, IPhones, Smart Phones, Tablets, Computers.  DVD’s and  TV’s in cars, in the kitchen, in the bedrooms, etc.  Okay, you get my drift, right?  When do you talk with your children?  When do you hug them and play with them and “hang out” with them?  Because those are the times when you are teaching them, about your values, about your family history, about your likes and dislikes, about who you are and in turn you want want them to be.  Not to mention a big part of your day you’re at work and they’re in school.  When does the quality time come in?

It’s a tough question and one that every good parent has to navigate.  I’m not trying to lay a guilt trip on you.  I just want you to think through the issue and choose the things that will help your child succeed in life.  It’s not going to come from the gadgets that we all have.  And you don’t want it coming from the opinions of others.   You want to be the one to influence your children.  So my question to you is… Are you leading your children are you giving up  that important duty to others?  It’s a choice!  And the choice you make will have lasting impact on your child.  Make the right one!  

Sex and Sexuality!

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It has been my observation that we are a society enamored by anything sexual.  You see it on TV all the time.  A woman walks on the beach in a skimpy bikini and the camera does a slo mo as she flings back her hair and moistens her lips and you wonder, “what is this an ad for”?  And way in the corner of the screen you might see a pair of jeans draped over a chair and the ad is about jeans.  In magazines we see scantily clad women, (considered pornography in the 50’s) in sexy poses and they’re trying to sell body lotion.   Billboards, internet, TV, magazines, everywhere you look.  How in the world can anyone survive intact with a healthy body image in the midst of the world in which we live?  How can we raise children in an environment where they are surrounded by this kind of message?

Children are products of their environment.  You’ve heard the old controversy, nurture vs. nature.  Well, the truth is it’s both.  But praise the Lord, because parents are HUGE influencers of their children and set the stage for a child’s moral values, their spiritual development, and a whole lot more.  So, my question to you parents out there is this…How are you influencing your children.  Are YOU doing the influencing or are you letting the world influence your children.  By what I see on TV, movies and in magazines, it’s a tough world out there in which to find one’s identity.  It’s so much worse than when I was a child.  So, it is even more important that as parents and guardians of our children that we speak louder than the world.

So, raise your voice and be an influencer.  Your children really are listening!

Are you really sorry?

Cover of "I'm Sorry (Look-Look)"

Cover of I’m Sorry (Look-Look)

At staff meeting this week we were discussing the ways in which to help a child understand the consequences of their actions. So many times, as adults, we want to have our child say “I’m sorry” when they have done something that hurt another person, whether it was a big hurt or a small hurt. At the meeting we were discussing how children don’t really understand the concept of being “sorry”. Oh, yes, they’ll say the words but many times they are right back at it again, doing the same thing as before and saying the same words, “I’m sorry” again. All the while, they haven’t learned very much about the encounter.

It was suggested to me at a training that instead of having the children who have wronged someone say “I’m sorry”, we must have them make amends. I’ve pondered on that for a while now and have decided that this is EXACTLY what needs to happen. Think about it, what if any human being, whether big or small had to make amends for every wrong deed they did. What would the world be like? I think in the Bible it’s called an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. Now, I’m not suggesting this is a good idea at all because since Jesus came into the world He asked us to forgive and forgive again and again when someone has wronged you. And I totally agree, although it is hard to do.

But what if, at a very young age, we teach our children to make amends for the wrongs they committ, not just to say “I’m sorry”. So when a child hits another child, they have to get them something to soothe the hurt, they have to be a part of the process as you help the hurt child. And what if we had each child that takes a toy from another child, not only give that toy back but verbally acknowledge…”I shouldn’t have taken that toy. It was wrong of me and I won’t do it again.” What if at a young age we taught this to our children and as they grew we continued to teach them to make amends when they have wronged someone. Would our world look different?

I really hope our world would be different. I pray it would make an impact on our world. So, in our school here at Aloma Methodist Early Childhood Learning Center we’re going to be putting that belief into practice. My prayer is that the children of this school would make a difference in the world as they grow. If we all teach our children this maybe we wouldn’t have the bombers and the shooters and people who create havoc in the world. I don’t know but it can only help.

What Are We Gonna Do About Supper?

A long time ago, over 10 years at least, I worked with the children at church and we did musicals.  During once performance of “Antsylvania”, there was a line in it where the little spider said to it’s mama, “What are we gonna do about supper?”  Well, ever since then when my husband is hungry he’ll say “What are we gonna do about supper?” Image

Dinner: It’s a modern-day dilemma  Here‘s an article about what to do about the dinner hurdle.

If there’s one daily duty that can confound even the most organized working parent, it’s how to get a decent meal on the dinner table when you’re exhausted after a long day at the office.

The last thing most of us want to do is slave over a hot stove. Yet a comforting, healthy meal shared at the end of the day can soothe frayed nerves, nourish the body and get everyone ready for the next day’s challenges.

How do you make it happen? Try using a Crock-Pot. New recipe books have updated ideas for turning out great soups, stews, chowders and more. You spend 15 to 20 minutes getting the meal going in the morning and when you return in the evening, you have a hot meal waiting for you.

Here’s a kid-friendly fish recipe that will have everyone going for seconds.

Ingredients:

2 slices of bacon, chopped

3 leeks, white part only, cleaned and finely chopped

3 celery stalks, washed, peeled and finely sliced

1/2 teaspoon dried thyme leaves

2 tablespoon all-purpose flour

4 cups fish stock (or water or 2 cups clam juice diluted with 2 cups water)

1 bay leaf

1 medium potato, peeled and cut into 1/2-inch cubes

2 cups cream or milk

1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper

2 pounds firm white fish fillets (like halibut or snapper) cut into 1-inch cubes

Directions:

1. Cook bacon in a skillet until crisp. Remove to a paper towel to absorb excess grease.

2. Drain all but 1 tablespoon of the fat from the skillet. Add leeks and celery to pan and cook until soft. Mix in thyme and bacon. Add flour, stir and cook about 1 minute. Add stock and bay leaf, stirring until slightly thickened.

3. Transfer to Crock-Pot. Add potato and stir. Cook on low for 8 to 10 hours or on high for 4 to 5 hours.

4. When you get home, heat up cream or milk until just before boiling. Stir in cayenne pepper. Add to Crock-Pot along with the fish. Cook on high 30 minutes or until fish is tender. Discard bay leaf and serve. Serves 6 to 8.

As an alternative, you can do steps 1 through 3 overnight, refrigerate the soup base in the morning before you head off to work, and do step four in a soup pot when you get home in the evening. 

Enjoy!